I envy those who have been adopted when they find there real family and they want to know them and get along with them, even if it is only from a distance, some times its enough just to know you have some one out there who cares some what.
I have never been lucky enough to have what i call normality in my life. Even my adoptive parants were dropped by there relatives because they could not stand by and watch how i was being treated, they thought turning a blind eye was ok and kept away.
As for my real family i was warned of and told i did not exist and it reflecked on my children and they took it personally, ending up with us seperating as well.
My mothers parants were not poor but selfish and split up when my mother and her sisters and brothers were small children and they all went into foster care, my mother herself had a traumatic life she passed onto me. Maybe some people should never have children.